Hehe. Although, I am curious to see the gay/straight table for men. Maybe we do better at pleasing members of the same sex because we know what’s where and what’s sensitive? I wonder.

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“Let him”? Are you fucking serious? YOU change YOUR last name, he doesn’t! Fuck’s sake…

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Tom Gabel ( now Laura Jane Grace), of Against Me!, is transgendered? I would’ve never guessed that based on image. I’ll make them the band of the week for that (even though I am not a fan) 

It always shocks me when normal looking people come out as trans. Who appear cisgender and then BANG. Especially in the rock world. As a rock star you have so much freedom. 

Of course, truth be told, I don’t understand how anyone can be cisgendered. How boring and dull is that! I am always skeptical of cisgender people as I don’t even consider them real individuals. Just mindless clones. 

Now, generally speaking, I identify as trans. But i don’t do hormones or anything because I am poor as shit AND it’s too binary. I guess that is what concerns me about cis people who come out as trans like that. Going from one gender role to the other in an extreme. I live my life between genders. Some days I wear fake boobs, sometimes I wear a dress without shaving my face and sometimes I wear pants and look like Kurt Cobain. Whatever my mood is. It’s Hollywood I can easily get away with this shit.  

Not to say I didn’t challenge gender in Ohio! It’s just less threatening here. Granted Hollywood has tons of trans people and West Hollywood is right next door. 

It’s good Laura is being herself, finally. But, looking at pictures of that band, they just look so testro driven rock. They didn’t challenge shit. And, as superficial as this is, a bands look is part of the appeal. I can’t get into bands that are all male and where they all have short hair and look normal. Especially in the year 2012. 

I’ve never hid who I am. Why would a rock star hide for so long? And if I ever got married (which I refuse to do until everyone has the right to get married regardless of sex) I wouldn’t hide who I am. 

But fear is a powerful thing I suppose. I just hope transiting brings Laura happiness. 

“I don’t understand how anyone can be cisgendered. How boring and dull is that!”

stop

“Now, generally speaking, I identify as trans. But i don’t do hormones or anything because I am poor as shit AND it’s too binary. I guess that is what concerns me about cis people who come out as trans like that”

stop

“It’s good Laura is being herself, finally. But, looking at pictures of that band, they just look so testro driven rock. They didn’t challenge shit. And, as superficial as this is, a bands look is part of the appeal. I can’t get into bands that are all male and where they all have short hair and look normal. Especially in the year 2012.”

stop

“I’ve never hid who I am. Why would a rock star hide for so long?”

stop

you contradict yourself a lot and i doubt you are trans if you’re speaking like that out of your arse

i have some advice for you. deactivate your tumblr

I just killed some Brain cells reading the top commentary.

Is it bad that I thought it was autumn-and-eve’s commentary before I checked, and then double checked?

Is it bad that I think that the OP is an attention-seeking white teenager with nothing better to do?

queersecrets:

[white text on bisexual pride flag background. Text reads: “I love him so much. I want to get married and have kids and stay with him for the rest of my life. And yet… I’ve never had a girlfriend, and I want to know what it’s like, just once. Just to be positive that I really am bisexual.”]

Boy, do I know this…

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How can someone stand behind abortion, when you have a life inside of you that God created for you? How can you say that this life isn’t worth it? If you can’t take care of the baby for whatever circumstances than there is always adoption available to couples who can’t conceive, but still want the joy of being parents. OPEN YOUR EYES! God has bigger plans for us all that we don’t even realize the picture.

Excuse me but it appears your baby is actually upside down
Did you take Sex Ed freshman year because babies come out headfirst

Hi, OP!  As someone who was given up for adoption, allow me to call bullshit on your little post there!  You see, when I was adopted, I was a white-skinned, healthy, neurotypical infant, which basically put me at the top of the list, right underneath white-skinned, healthy, neurotypical MALE infants!  There’s only one kind of infant people wanted to adopt more than me!  I was SOOO lucky!  But if you actually bothered to look at the information readily available on the interwebs, you would be aware that the majority of people who are forced to rely on abortion for family planning are poor people and people of color.  Of course, those two demographics intersect, thanks to the institutionalized racism of our society!  Neat huh?!

Of course, even babies of color are not in high demand with couples looking to adopt.  Many who do want to adopt outside their race choose to go outside the country, where laws are less strict and the process is often less expensive.  Of course, most of the infants adopted this way are obtained in unscrupulous fashion, but who cares about that when you’re saving a little Korean or African baby from the horrible fate of growing up in Korea or Africa???  And all those children who have birth defects, are born with diseases or disabilities, or have other issues… WELL.  Who wants to invest that kind of expense and time?  Why would you adopt someone broken, LOLOL?!

Granted, there are some wonderful people who understand the system a little better, and make it a point to try and give POC and disabled children a good home.  But they make up a very small fraction of potential adopters!  This difference in supply and demand leaves a lot of children stuck in the foster system, where their chances of being adopted diminish with every passing year, and their chances of being physically or sexually abused INCREASE!  Isn’t that wonderful?

And of course, we haven’t even talked about the person who is giving birth to the baby!  I know you probably think pregnancy is a wonderful, happy time, and for some people it is, but it is also one of the greatest health risks a person can take. I love my son very much, and from the day I found out I was pregnant with him, I wanted him!  But I also nearly died giving birth to him.  You see, I had pre-eclampsia, the most commonly fatal birth complication in the world.  My blood pressure was 180 over 130!  At twenty-two years old, I was actually headed for a stroke, hah hah!  How funny is that?  And all it took was missing a single pre-natal appointment during which my blood pressure rose to dangerous levels and my body tried to kill both me and my son.  Those seizures sure were fun, as was the emergency c-section performed without anesthetic!  And being chained down while the operation was performed, because I was delirious and wouldn’t stop trying to fight off the doctors, that was a BLAST!  It was great for my husband too, since he almost lost his wife and child in just forty-five minutes.  You can imagine how thrilled he is at the prospect of me ever getting pregnant again.  Babies are certainly cute, but pregnancy can have massive health complications, and I know it’s such a bummer, but they are PERMANENT.  :(  My abdominal muscles never recovered from being hacked through with a scalpel, and the flood of hormones caused by late pregnancy have changed things from heartburn (never used to have it, now, all the time!) to my emotional reactions (I cry when I see pictures of kittens now.  I used to be tough).  These are changes I did not ask for, cannot control, and cannot fix!  And many people go through worse!  I know, right?  Unbelievable, but go look up the word ‘episiotomy’ and then look up ‘birth rape’ and I’m afraid you’ll find some stuff that just isn’t very shiny.  Plus, the studies actually show that people who carry a baby to term, give birth, then give it up for adoption suffer HIGHER rates of post-pregnancy complications like post-partum depression and post-partum psychosis, general depression, and other mental health issues.  Adoption actually isn’t good for the person giving birth at all!

I’m afraid the picture you chose to use there is also pretty disingenuous.  I know, I know, it seems like nitpicking.  I’m not trying to be mean!  :(  But that picture shows a fully developed, viable infant, and most abortions are performed when the fetus isn’t even a fetus - it’s a blastocyst.  That’s just a clump of cells.  Seriously! You can totally find pictures on the interwebs and they’re not even gross, LOLOL!  Later-term abortions are usually performed because of health complications, though some of our intrepid state legislators are trying to change all that!  They care so much about people who are pregnant, you see, that they want to force them to carry dead or dying fetuses inside them until their body either becomes infected while it rots in their tummies (this is called sepsis, and it makes people very sick, and can even kill them!), or forces it out naturally in a gush of blood and fluids!  Isn’t that so caring of them?  I’m so glad they’re around to make those decisions for me!  And if a pregnant person is not allowed to terminate an unviable fetus, in some states, they have to carry the child to term, give birth to it, and then watch it die in their arms because its lungs weren’t developed, or its brain formed outside its skull, or any of a million possible birth defects that will kill you just as quick as lickity-split!  Isn’t that wild?!  Of course, these people go through terrible grief, and as I mentioned, some of them may get sick and die from not being able to abort dead or dying fetuses.  But I guess that’s just A-okay with you, huh?

Basically, I think before you suggest adoption as a universal alternative, you should actually go do some research on adoption.  And before you condemn abortion, you should do some research on abortions - not the stuff your church is giving you, the stuff the real doctors are saying.  Go to Planned Parenthood (if they haven’t all been closed down, ROFLMAO!) and request whatever information they have on the process, the statistics of who has abortions and why… and actually, all of that is on the interwebs!  Isn’t technology AMAZING?

And in closing, since I’ve been asked this question many times and I know it’s coming?  Yes, I realize I am here talking to you because I was not aborted.  But the thing is, if my mother had chosen abortion, I wouldn’t know the difference, so it wouldn’t matter to me.  And if she decided that choice was best for her, then that choice would have been best for her, and I would never want to take that choice away from her.  As it is, since I was given up for adoption, and since I have seen the statistics on how badly people who give their children up for adoption suffer, I have spent much of my adult life worrying about her, whether she’s healthy, whether she’s okay, and feeling that if she did suffer from any of the common post-birth symptoms, it is at least partially my fault, even though she made that decision on her own.  Which is silly, I know, but at some point, all children have to stare down the consequences of their parents’ having them.  For some, that’s poverty.  For others, a life-time of their parents struggling to treat and care for a severe illness or disability.  For others, it’s wondering if their mother ever got over giving them away, and wishing you could reach out and assure her that it’s okay, she doesn’t have to be haunted.

May your birth control never fail!

that is the greatest fucking thing I’ve ever read.

fuck you, OP.

BLESS THIS POST

BLESS THIS POST & SONNEILLONV! 

The best post of ALL TIME. ALL OF THE AWARDS!

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Damage

This is not my usual post. But it’s something I had to share. As you read this, imagine how your reaction would differ if this story were being told by a woman, talking about how her husband treated her.

I have been separated from my wife for over a year, though we continue to share a house. We live on separate floors. We share the house because we need to parent our son together, and because we can’t afford to maintain two households.

I’d like to tell you a story, illustrating one reason why I am divorcing her. This is an example of the treatment I have received over the past fourteen years.

This evening, while she was drinking her wine, my estranged wife took exception to the fact that I wanted to talk about how tense she’s been. She said she didn’t want to talk about it.

I left the room (so as to comply with her request).

I went upstairs to use our tiny guest bathroom. She began to yell and throw things around the kitchen, then eventually charged up the stairs and into the bathroom, just as I was finishing and getting ready to leave. She confronted me there, holding her half-full wine glass in her hand. Her voice got louder, her gestures wilder. 

She complained that I had upset her by wanting to talk when she had told me she didn’t want to talk. As I began to feel uncomfortable, I said, “You’re saying it’s my fault you can’t express your emotions responsibly like an adult?”

She said, “Yes!! It’s because you want to go off and take a vacation with your girlfriend!” Then she threw the contents of her glass in my face and smashed it against my bare chest.

The results are pictured here.

I stood there, with shattered glass at my feet, glass shards sticking in my skin, bleeding, for five minutes or so. I asked her to move so that I could leave. She waved the broken stem of the glass in the air and said, “Leave!! Who’s stopping you?”

I told her she was standing between me and the door. I felt threatened. 

She laughed and said, “You’re 6 foot 3 and 250 pounds! You can’t feel threatened by me!”

I said, “You just broke a glass on my chest and cut me. You’re standing there with the stem in your hands. Yes. I feel threatened.

She said, “No, you don’t.”

I asked her to move out of the way and let me pass. I didn’t want her to think I was pushing her or threatening her.

She held her ground, waved the broken stem and shouted, “Go on! Leave! I’m not stopping you!”

After I asked her repeatedly, she finally moved a bit and I left, carefully stepping over the broken glass.

I have posted this here as evidence, and to help those who may think that size and gender make a difference when abuse is concerned. People who, like my estranged, think some have permission to feel threatened and some don’t.

Abusers come in all sizes and genders.

She and I went to a half dozen therapists over the years. At each initial session, every therapist took a look at me, then at her (5’4” 150 lbs.). Then he or she would gravely ask my wife, “Do you feel safe?”

None ever thought to ask me.

Thanks for listening.

Because this needs to be shared. Because abuse is wrong no matter what. Because this saddens my heart.

:(

honestly, fuck tumblr. if this was a woman this would be the only thing on my dash.

with that being said, fuck people who think that women are the only ones that can be abused in a relationship. and fuck crazy women, as well.

Fuck abuse. This should have the ten thousand notes that  every women’s domestic abuse case has.

Regards,

IIF 

I’m glad to see something like this on my dashboard finally. Not the fact that he got abused by his wife, but to show that not only women are victims of abuse (like so many women claim). It’s a shame that so many stupid people out there think -and defend- only women when it comes to abuse and not men.

ALL OF THIS

I don’t usually reblog this kind of thing… but the message here is just as important as this one mans personal tale.
Domestic abuse is not just male-on-female. It can happen just as easily the other way around, and the sad part is that men get almost NO support for it, and often feel scared or embarrassed to speak out about it. 

As women, we have fought for equality, and in some places, we still are… but equality works both ways. If a man has no right to physically, mentally and verbally abuse a woman, the women similarly have no right to do that to a man.

Keep this in mind if you know anyone stuck in a tough or rocky relationship: the man might be just as scared and at risk as the woman. 

this made me tear up.

^^^^^ All of this.  Society has tried to teach us that men cannot be raped or abused in the same way it has tried to teach us that women should expect such treatment.  And it’s disgusting. 

SO SO SO SO HAPPY TO FINALLY SEE A POST LIKE THIS, people need to open their eyes to all forms of abuse. I’ve been aware of situations such as this for YEARS. 

abuse comes in all forms, and is ALWAYS inexcusable.